Why You Should Check On The Friend That Always Checks On You

If you’re lucky, you have a friend who is always there for you. She drops everything to sit on the couch with you after a bad break up and binge watch This is Us. She motivates you to keep going after you didn’t get the promotion at work. And, she always knows the right thing to say to make you feel better. Most importantly, she checks on you to make sure you’re ok.

But, you have to remember to also check on her. You may think that your friend has a super human ability to let things roll off her shoulders; but the truth is that she is so good at talking you out of pain and disappointment because she has had to do that for herself too many times to count. The reason she knows that she needs to check on you is because she knows that if she doesn’t, you could spiral lower—as she often does.

Your friend may not tell you when she needs you because she knows that you’re dealing with your own issues and doesn’t want to trouble you with hers. So, she smiles and pretends to be fine. But, even when she seems ok, check on the friend that always checks on you because she is dealing with more than you know and she needs you.

The One Thing You Should Be Doing If You Want To Be More Productive

Being productive requires you to be motivated. But after years of juggling work, children, social commitments, workouts, new diets, hair appointments, grocery shopping, laundry, needy family members, and the unexpected monkey wrenches called life, motivation is hard to find. So, in order to stay motivated, you have to take breaks and allow yourself time to recharge. Whether you take five minutes to sit in your car in silence before walking into the house after work, or you take a day off to go to the spa, you have to take a step back in order to move forward.

Taking time for yourself should happen weekly. Otherwise, you lose motivation and your productivity drops off. So, schedule a massage, get a manicure, take a long nap, or read a few chapters in your book: just do something that is 100% about you.

Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted and no solutions are searched for.  — Maya Angelou

 

How to Handle a Workplace Dispute

Workplace disputes, while hopefully uncommon, do occur. Usually, the actual dispute is not the issue: it is how you handle the dispute. Here’s what you should do:

Pick Your Battles. A huge part of handling workplace disputes is knowing when you should engage and when you shouldn’t. Not all comments, actions, or situations warrant your attention or response. So before you engage, decide whether it is something that even matters.

Remove Emotion. If you do find yourself in an office debate or disagreement, you have to remove emotion. This means no yelling and no tears. Because holding back emotion can be difficult, try giving yourself time to calm down before you address the issue. Sometimes, calming down means taking a breath or two before you speak. And, sometimes, calming down means discussing the issue hours later. Just make sure that you are able to express your position clearly without losing your cool.

Don’t Make it Personal. Keep your words professional and respectful. There is great power in proving your point without hitting below the belt.

Move On. After the dispute is worked out, move on. Don’t dwell on the issue and don’t run around the office gossiping about it.

 

How Successful People Get Their Seat at the Table

We all know those women that are extremely accomplished and on top of their game. They have a seat at the table and their voices are heard. But how did they get there? What did they do?

Here are a few things successful women do to stay on top:

  1. They go the extra mile. Successful women don’t just do enough to get by, they do more than what’s required. They go above and beyond because they know that in order to gain a much coveted seat at the table, they need to work twice as hard. And, keep in mind, they didn’t get a seat at the table after two weeks of hard work. They showed their superiors that they are consistently adding value to the organization. They earned their seat.
  2. They speak up.  Successful women know that the squeaky wheel gets the grease. If you want something, say something. If there is a new project that you want to be involved in, go to the person in charge of assigning tasks and say something like: “I would love to be involved in ‘project X.’ My experience studying abroad during college may help the marketing team with regard to reaching audiences abroad.” This way, you express interest, offer assistance, and communicate your qualifications. Even if you’re not the right fit for this particular opportunity, offering to help doesn’t go unnoticed.
  3. They ask for help. Women at the top ask for advice and mentorship just like the rest of us. Having a tribe that helps guide and advise you is important. Communicate your goals to your mentor/sponsor and ask for advice regarding obstacles you may face.

Ten Things Every Professional Should Carry In Her Handbag

If you’re like most women, you carry a large purse that holds some of your most prized possessions. But when you dig through your Louis Vuitton, never-full tote bag, do you actually find what you need? Do you even have everything a professional should have? My guess is no. So, here are the ten essential items you be should carrying in your purse:

  1. Business Cards. This should go without saying but, a lot of women forget to carry business cards. If you want to be taken seriously, carry your business cards and give them out. This Kate Spade card holder is perfection.
  2. Mini Lint Roller. Dog hair is cute on your dog, not on your slacks.
  3. Small Makeup Bag. Unless you’re flawless and can go without makeup, you need to carry a small makeup bag so that you can freshen up your makeup mid-day. Travel size versions of your favorite mascara, concealer, and lipstick are ideal. Keep them in a small makeup bag like this one.
  4. Hygiene Products. Deodorant, travel tooth brush, mints . . . you get the point.
  5. Fashion Tape. Don’t fall victim to a gaping button-down shirt.
  6. Tide Pen. Well, because, spills happen.
  7. A Mirror. Check your teeth for food . . . and lipstick.
  8. Tylenol. A headache can quickly ruin your day.
  9. Lotion. Don’t wear killer heels and have ashy ankles. Carry lotion and use it .
  10. A Nail File. A broken or split nail is the worst. These mini nail files are our favorite.