Are You Working Hard Enough?

We all think that we work a lot. And, we all think that we are the most exhausted person in the room. But, chances are, we are not working hard enough to achieve our goals.

If you’re one of those women who wants to advance your career and level up (i.e., get to the next stage of your career) then you can’t just work, you have to work hard. Just like working out in the gym, career advancement requires that you kick it up a notch.

For example: if you begin a new workout program with the hopes of seeing results, most personal trainers will tell you that you have to push yourself. You can’t take leisurely walks on the treadmill and eat Oreos for dinner and expect to lose 20lbs. Instead, you have to say goodbye to the junk food, pick up the pace in the gym, work up a sweat, and be slightly uncomfortable and out of breath—because if you’re comfortable holding a conversation while working out then you aren’t working hard enough. Plus, getting results requires that you work up a sweat more than once; it requires a continuous and consistent intensity. Only after repeat sweat sessions in the gym and discipline in the kitchen do you see results.

The same is true in your career.

Think of the kitchen as your place of employment. You need to eliminate the junk. Don’t get caught up in the office gossip and things that don’t advance your career. Rather, focus on working hard on things that help feed your career. Give your work assignments an extra proof read, stay late to get one more task done, and remain focused.

Now, think of your gym sessions as what you need to do in your free time to get to the next level. Sure, you may be logging in on the weekends here and there to do some work; but, would that work be classified as a “leisurely walk”? Because if so, you need to go harder. Just like you have to push yourself in the gym, you have to push yourself when choosing to work another hour versus choosing to lay on the couch and scroll through Instagram. Yes, you will be tired, but aren’t you also tired after an hour in the gym? You have to push yourself and get to that slightly uncomfortable zone to see results.

It’s simple, in order to level up you have to work harder.



Why You Should Check On The Friend That Always Checks On You

If you’re lucky, you have a friend who is always there for you. She drops everything to sit on the couch with you after a bad break up and binge watch This is Us. She motivates you to keep going after you didn’t get the promotion at work. And, she always knows the right thing to say to make you feel better. Most importantly, she checks on you to make sure you’re ok.

But, you have to remember to also check on her. You may think that your friend has a super human ability to let things roll off her shoulders; but the truth is that she is so good at talking you out of pain and disappointment because she has had to do that for herself too many times to count. The reason she knows that she needs to check on you is because she knows that if she doesn’t, you could spiral lower—as she often does.

Your friend may not tell you when she needs you because she knows that you’re dealing with your own issues and doesn’t want to trouble you with hers. So, she smiles and pretends to be fine. But, even when she seems ok, check on the friend that always checks on you because she is dealing with more than you know and she needs you.

The One Thing You Should Be Doing If You Want To Be More Productive

Being productive requires you to be motivated. But after years of juggling work, children, social commitments, workouts, new diets, hair appointments, grocery shopping, laundry, needy family members, and the unexpected monkey wrenches called life, motivation is hard to find. So, in order to stay motivated, you have to take breaks and allow yourself time to recharge. Whether you take five minutes to sit in your car in silence before walking into the house after work, or you take a day off to go to the spa, you have to take a step back in order to move forward.

Taking time for yourself should happen weekly. Otherwise, you lose motivation and your productivity drops off. So, schedule a massage, get a manicure, take a long nap, or read a few chapters in your book: just do something that is 100% about you.

Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted and no solutions are searched for.  — Maya Angelou


How to Handle a Workplace Dispute

Workplace disputes, while hopefully uncommon, do occur. Usually, the actual dispute is not the issue: it is how you handle the dispute. Here’s what you should do:

Pick Your Battles. A huge part of handling workplace disputes is knowing when you should engage and when you shouldn’t. Not all comments, actions, or situations warrant your attention or response. So before you engage, decide whether it is something that even matters.

Remove Emotion. If you do find yourself in an office debate or disagreement, you have to remove emotion. This means no yelling and no tears. Because holding back emotion can be difficult, try giving yourself time to calm down before you address the issue. Sometimes, calming down means taking a breath or two before you speak. And, sometimes, calming down means discussing the issue hours later. Just make sure that you are able to express your position clearly without losing your cool.

Don’t Make it Personal. Keep your words professional and respectful. There is great power in proving your point without hitting below the belt.

Move On. After the dispute is worked out, move on. Don’t dwell on the issue and don’t run around the office gossiping about it.


How Successful People Get Their Seat at the Table

We all know those women that are extremely accomplished and on top of their game. They have a seat at the table and their voices are heard. But how did they get there? What did they do?

Here are a few things successful women do to stay on top:

  1. They go the extra mile. Successful women don’t just do enough to get by, they do more than what’s required. They go above and beyond because they know that in order to gain a much coveted seat at the table, they need to work twice as hard. And, keep in mind, they didn’t get a seat at the table after two weeks of hard work. They showed their superiors that they are consistently adding value to the organization. They earned their seat.
  2. They speak up.  Successful women know that the squeaky wheel gets the grease. If you want something, say something. If there is a new project that you want to be involved in, go to the person in charge of assigning tasks and say something like: “I would love to be involved in ‘project X.’ My experience studying abroad during college may help the marketing team with regard to reaching audiences abroad.” This way, you express interest, offer assistance, and communicate your qualifications. Even if you’re not the right fit for this particular opportunity, offering to help doesn’t go unnoticed.
  3. They ask for help. Women at the top ask for advice and mentorship just like the rest of us. Having a tribe that helps guide and advise you is important. Communicate your goals to your mentor/sponsor and ask for advice regarding obstacles you may face.