How to Instantly Look More Put Together

On any given day, most of us are running to multiple meetings and appointments. So, you need a work bag large enough to hold everything for the day. If you don’t have a professional bag that holds everything, you end up carrying multiple bags which can make you look sloppy. You may have on a Boss suit and killer pumps but, if you are lugging around a purse, a backpack, a computer bag, your lunch kit, and a grocery bag full of who knows what, you look disheveled and unorganized. Minimize the amount of things you’re carrying and you will immediately look more put together. Find a work bag that holds everything so that you only have one bag. And, stop carrying around things you don’t need.

These work bags are my favorite:

  1. Tory Burch
  2. Madewell
  3. Banana Republic
  4. Target
  5. Gucci

 

The BCC Line: When To Use It, When To Avoid It.

We all have that one petty coworker who swears by the BCC line because it helps her spread office gossip. Maybe that person is you. Either way, most people who regularly use the BCC line have ill intentions. But, the BCC line can, and should, be used to be productive, not devious.

Here’s when you should use the BCC line:

When you want to include people on a thread who may not want their email addresses disclosed. Maybe you’re emailing a large group of people about a work event or you’re emailing your entire client list about a new product. So, to protect everyone’s privacy, you should put their email addresses in the BCC line. This way, no email addresses are visible and you avoid having to send a bunch of separate emails.

Here’s when you should not use the BCC line:

If you’re using the BCC line to disclose something you shouldn’t or spread drama then you’re entering dangerous territory. The contents of the BCC line can be easily uncovered if the right tech savvy person cares to look. So, don’t embarrass yourself or lose your job because you felt petty one afternoon and recklessly used the BCC line. Also, remember that the recipient of your email may not realize she is in the BCC line and might hit “reply all.” Don’t risk it.

What You Need To Know Before You Shatter The Glass Ceiling

You’ve spent years working towards your career goals: sacrificing social events, missing precious time with your children, and working during family vacations. But, after years of hard work you are finally promoted to your dream job—Vice President of your company. You shattered the glass ceiling because you are the first woman in the history of the company to hold this position. There are marketing announcements and congratulatory emails. But, you notice that some of your friends and colleagues fail to utter a word. You assume it is because they are busy and remind yourself that everything isn’t about you; but, what you may be experiencing is the aftermath of shattering the glass ceiling.

When you shatter the glass ceiling, shards of glass will undoubtedly fall—painfully stabbing you on the way down. Those shards of glass are people who are envious of your success; coworkers who feel like they should have gotten the promotion over you; and, people who assume you got your promotion because of luck. The shards of glass are also the growing pains of accepting a promotion because you have to learn a new role, manage a new team, and accept a more demanding schedule. Either way, when you do something so bold as to shatter the glass ceiling you have to be prepared for the unavoidable sharp shards that will follow.

Are You Working Hard Enough?

We all think that we work a lot. And, we all think that we are the most exhausted person in the room. But, chances are, we are not working hard enough to achieve our goals.

If you’re one of those women who wants to advance your career and level up (i.e., get to the next stage of your career) then you can’t just work, you have to work hard. Just like working out in the gym, career advancement requires that you kick it up a notch.

For example: if you begin a new workout program with the hopes of seeing results, most personal trainers will tell you that you have to push yourself. You can’t take leisurely walks on the treadmill and eat Oreos for dinner and expect to lose 20lbs. Instead, you have to say goodbye to the junk food, pick up the pace in the gym, work up a sweat, and be slightly uncomfortable and out of breath—because if you’re comfortable holding a conversation while working out then you aren’t working hard enough. Plus, getting results requires that you work up a sweat more than once; it requires a continuous and consistent intensity. Only after repeat sweat sessions in the gym and discipline in the kitchen do you see results.

The same is true in your career.

Think of the kitchen as your place of employment. You need to eliminate the junk. Don’t get caught up in the office gossip and things that don’t advance your career. Rather, focus on working hard on things that help feed your career. Give your work assignments an extra proof read, stay late to get one more task done, and remain focused.

Now, think of your gym sessions as what you need to do in your free time to get to the next level. Sure, you may be logging in on the weekends here and there to do some work; but, would that work be classified as a “leisurely walk”? Because if so, you need to go harder. Just like you have to push yourself in the gym, you have to push yourself when choosing to work another hour versus choosing to lay on the couch and scroll through Instagram. Yes, you will be tired, but aren’t you also tired after an hour in the gym? You have to push yourself and get to that slightly uncomfortable zone to see results.

It’s simple, in order to level up you have to work harder.

 

 

Why You Should Check On The Friend That Always Checks On You

If you’re lucky, you have a friend who is always there for you. She drops everything to sit on the couch with you after a bad break up and binge watch This is Us. She motivates you to keep going after you didn’t get the promotion at work. And, she always knows the right thing to say to make you feel better. Most importantly, she checks on you to make sure you’re ok.

But, you have to remember to also check on her. You may think that your friend has a super human ability to let things roll off her shoulders; but the truth is that she is so good at talking you out of pain and disappointment because she has had to do that for herself too many times to count. The reason she knows that she needs to check on you is because she knows that if she doesn’t, you could spiral lower—as she often does.

Your friend may not tell you when she needs you because she knows that you’re dealing with your own issues and doesn’t want to trouble you with hers. So, she smiles and pretends to be fine. But, even when she seems ok, check on the friend that always checks on you because she is dealing with more than you know and she needs you.