With all the chatter about resolutions and goals for 2020, many of us went full speed ahead on January 1st. But now that we are almost two weeks into the year, are you still going as hard? Probably not. With crazy work schedules and unexpected setbacks, it is easy to get overwhelmed and simply give up. I don’t blame you.
But if there is one thing 2019 taught me, it’s that in order to accomplish your goals, you have to give yourself leeway to adjust and reset as life comes at you: because life will undoubtedly come at you. It’s so easy to get caught up in the “push through” and “work harder” mentality because every article we read suggests that scaling back is for people who are mentally weak. But just like driving, in life you have to slow down and reroute your GPS when there is an unexpected road closure.
In 2019, after a month of crushing my 2019 resolutions, my cousin Jesse died unexpectedly. We were extremely close and it knocked the wind out of me. While I did not let his death completely derail my goals, I did allow myself time to ignore those goals for a few weeks and simply be ok with taking one breath at a time. Then, I was able to adjust my planned path to accomplish those goals given the circumstances.
As you embark on your journey to greatness in 2020 remember that life happens, be gentle with yourself, and don’t be afraid to adjust those goals along the way. Setbacks are unavoidable so, be ready. Whether you need to take a week off from the gym to focus on a stressful project at work or you need to recognize that reading one book a week for all of 2020 was too ambitious; do it. Either way, don’t abandon your goals, just adjust them to fit into the unknown of life. Take that week off and then set a goal to hit the gym twice the following week and then three the next. Instead of giving up on reading completely, adjust your goal to read one book a month. And, if that’s still too much, aim for one book every other month. The point of a resolution or goal is to make us better than before. Better can mean 300% better or 3% better. Yes, we all want to shoot for the stars and conquer the world but, we can’t do that if exhaustion or poor mental health gets the best of us. Never give up on your goals just be prepared to adjust the path to those goals along the way.